Friday, June 24, 2016

45 Motivational Quotes to Change Your Life

We all need a little motivation once in a while.  We all need to re-focus at one time or another.  I am a long-time fan of quotes or inspirational sayings that do just that and help me be more successful.  Here are some of my favorite quotes that have also been re-tweeted often by those on twitter. 
  1. “One coach will impact more young people in a year than the average person does in a lifetime.” (Billy Graham)
  2. "Champions never complain, they are too busy getting better." (John Wooden)
  3. "I will prepare and someday my chance will come." (Abraham Lincoln)
  4. "Don't complain about not getting a chance and then be unprepared when you finally do." (Joe Montana)
  5. "It has to happen on the inside before it can happen on the outside." (Jon Gordon)
  6. “Don't be a wheelbarrow ... only useful when pushed.” (Jamy Bechler)
  7. "There is no such thing as a 'small thing'. How we do SMALL things is how we do ALL things." (Brian Cain)
  8. "Don't focus on winning a championship. Focus on becoming a champion." (Jon Gordon)
  9. "The culture you create permeates everything you touch." (Tony Dungy)
  10. “If you want to make everyone happy don’t be a leader. Go Sell Ice Cream.” (Eric Geiger)
  11. "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." (Thomas Edison)
  12. "Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." (Buddha)
  13. "The time is always right to do what is right." (Martin Luther King, Jr.)
  14. “Mentally strong players don’t keep repeating the same mistakes. They accept responsibility and learn from them.” (Jamy Bechler)
  15.  "The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." (Walt Disney)
  16. "Losers assemble in little groups and complain about the coaches/players in other groups. Winners assemble as a team." (Bill Parcels)
  17. "We don't wait on opportunity to knock. We wake up and seek to create opportunity." (Coach Micheal Burt)
  18. "In order to be a winner, you have to look for ways of getting things done and not for reasons why things can’t be done." (Coach K)
  19. “A bad attitude is like a flat tire, you can't get very far until you change it.” (Jamy Bechler)
  20. “You're always doing 1 of 2 things as a player. You're either IMPACTING winning or COMPLICATING winning." (Tom Crean )
  21. "The true test of a man's character is what he does when no one is looking." (Coach John Wooden)
  22. "Talent is a gift; Character is a choice." (John Maxwell)
  23. "Men succeed when they realize that their failures are the preparation for their victories." (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
  24. "The measure of who we are is how we react to something that doesn't go our way." (Gregg Popovich)
  25. "Leading the way often involves finding a way to DO what has never been DONE." (Jon Gordon)
  26. "Under pressure, you don't rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training." (Navy SEALS)
  27. "You cannot grow an oak tree from an apple seed. You cannot grow a great life from negative thoughts." (Ed DeCosta)
  28. "A dream you don't have to fight for isn't a dream -- it's a nap." (Jon Acuff)
  29. "Leadership is a potent combination of strategy & character. But if you must be w/out one, be w/out strategy." (Gen. Norman Schwarzkopf)
  30. "Responsibility never ends. You don't finish it and move on. Responsibility is a constant state of being." (Pat Summitt)
  31. "Never be the guy who doesn't want to grab the mop." (Mike Dunlap)
  32. "If you have not made it to the level you are capable of in life, take a hard look at who you are spending your time with." (Jimmy Dykes)
  33. “Obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes off the goal.” (Henry Ford)
  34. "Insecure leaders don't want honest feedback. They just want an echo chamber." (John Brubaker)
  35. "Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be." (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
  36.  “A culture of excellence is created not in the big moments but in all the "little" decisions you make every day.” (Stephanie Zonars)
  37. "You don’t overcome challenges by making them smaller but by making yourself bigger." (John Maxwell)
  38. “Don't raise your voice, improve your argument.” (Desmond Tutu)
  39. "The man who does not read has no advantage over the man who cannot." (Mark Twain)
  40. “Champions don't become champions in the ring; They are merely recognized there.” (Mohammad Ali)
  41. “You can't change the past, but the past can change you.  You can do three things with the past: LIVE in it, DWELL in it, LEARN from it.” (Jamy Bechler)
  42. "Be the change you want to see in the world." (Gandhi)
  43. “Bad leaders want dependent followers.  Good leaders want empowered followers.” (Jamy Bechler)
  44. "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it’ll spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.” (Albert Einstein)
  45. "You can never make the same mistake twice because the second time you make it...... It's not a mistake, it's a choice!" (Inky Johnson)

Jamy Bechler is a John Maxwell Certified Leadership Speaker, Trainer and Coach.  Contact him at to find out how you or your team can be more successful.   You can also subscribe to his leadership insights & newsletter by clicking here.

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

College Recruiting & Social Media

It seems that every high school and college student-athlete is using some form of social media almost constantly.  With the advent of smart phones, it is easier now than ever before to communicate and share opinions and thoughts.  With this greater opportunity comes a greater responsibility to be wise.  

If a high school athlete desires to have as many good scholarship options as possible, then it is important that they are wise in their social media use.  For college athletes, if they want to have as many good employment options as possible, then they need to be responsible when they post to their social media accounts.  

I recently presented at the Indiana High School Athletic Association’s Student-Athlete Leadership Conference.  My topic was social media and college recruiting.  The bottom line is that the choices we make today will shape our tomorrows.  What do we want our tomorrow to look like.  We each have a brand.  We each have a story to tell about ourselves.  What are we going to tell the world?

Here is the power point presentation that we used at the conference…

Saturday, June 18, 2016

Stop Being a 'BUT'

I heard an interview with MVP Steph Curry the other night after Game 6 of the NBA Finals, in which he made a comment that got me thinking about my pre-maritial counseling.  

Wait, what?!?  

You mean it's not natural to associate Steph Curry getting ejected and throwing mouth-pieces with pre-maritial counseling?  

Our pastor said to never follow up an apology with the word "but".  It devalues the apology.  It minimizes that sentiment after you say sorry.  How many times have we said something like the following statement?  "Babe, I am sorry that I yelled at you, but if only you _________, then I wouldn't have had to set you straight."

Friday, June 10, 2016

It Is What You Make It

"I am not what happened to me. 
I am what I choose to become."
(Carl Gustav Jung)

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month.” (Theodore Roosevelt) 

 Are you going through a mid-life crisis?  "IT IS WHAT IT IS"  
Have you been passed over for a promotion?  "IT IS WHAT IT IS"
Is your girlfriend is a nag?  "IT IS WHAT IT IS"
Your parents don't understand you?   "IT IS WHAT IT IS"
You say your husband doesn't listen to you?   "IT IS WHAT IT IS"
Are the people around you are idiots?   "IT IS WHAT IT IS"

Hearing "It is what it is" makes me want to punch someone.  And then when they'd complain, I'd just say, "Sorry, but it is what it is"

Friday, June 3, 2016

Change the World Without Spending a Dime

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Gandhi

How often are you or someone around you negative about society, other people, or the world in general?  If only you had the power to change things.  If only you had money like Bill Gates, you could make a difference in life.  Well, the truth is that you can make a difference in this world...and it doesn't have to cost a thing.

First of all, you have to understand that change happens daily, not in a day.  It might not seem like you can make a difference but you can.  Every great fire starts with a single spark.  I encourage you to be the spark in your workplace, your family, on your team, in your community or in your school.  Mother Teresa once said, 
"I alone cannot change the world by myself, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples."
Here are 4 ways that you can make a difference in the world today ... and they don't even have to cost you any money.

Friday, May 27, 2016

Southwest Airlines Puts Employees First

All of us have jobs that we have to wake up for each day.  Do you like this job?  Is it a good place to work with a fun environment?  For one company, a CHAMPIONSHIP CULTURE has been built upon doing things a little different than the norm.

Most of us have flown before and have had the unfortunate experience of shutting off our portable electronic devices and listen to an unhappy flight attendance go over passenger information for the millionth time.  But, if you've ever flown on a Southwest flight, you may have had a slightly different encounter with a - dare I say - happy employee ...
“No smoking is allowed, not even in the toilets. Don’t be naughty in our potty. If you do there is a $2,000 fine, and if you had that kind of money you’d be flying United instead of Southwest.”

 “Your seat cushions can be used for flotation. In the event of an emergency water landing please take them with our compliments.”

 “We are pleased to have some of the best flight attendants in the industry. Unfortunately none of them are on this flight.”

"Although we never anticipate a change in cabin pressure... because if we did, we wouldn't have come to work today.... If you're traveling with a small child, what were you thinking? Put your mask on first and then help them with theirs. If you are traveling with multiple young children, assist the one with the most potential first and then work your way down."

Friday, May 20, 2016

Everyone Communicates; Few Connect

When I read John Maxwell's book “Everyone Communicates; Few Connect”, it was a jolt of lightning in my thinking.  How many of us send memos, emails, texts, facebook messages and tweets but don’t really go beyond the surface?

My brother and I can chat for 30 minutes on the phone and when I hang up, I can’t answer any questions from my wife about my brother’s family or what’s really going on in his life.  But, boy can I tell you his opinion on Michigan football or the Detroit Tigers.   

As coaches, salespeople, teachers or executives, how often do we talk and make our pitch but don’t listen or understand what others want?  I guess there is a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth.  We are constantly communicating but are we really connecting?  Are we really developing a true relationship with others?  

Ask questions.  Be interested in the other person and what they have got to say.  Understand their point of view. If we want to truly be people of influence, then we must learn to make connections with others.  

 Jamy Bechler is a certified John Maxwell leadership coach, speaker and trainer.  You can contact him at  You can also subscribe to his leadership newsletter by clicking here.

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Change is inevitable; Growth is optional

The world is always changing.  We are always learning more and more.  Technology is ever-changing.  Athletes are getting bigger, faster, stronger.  John Maxwell says that change is inevitable but growth is optional.  

My wife and I have lived in 8 places during our marriage.  We have seen different cultures, perspectives and belief systems.  Ironically, we have found that one thing has remained the same through the years…the world is in a constant state of change.  

Your ability to adapt to situations can lead to a higher level of success.  As a coach, I was faced with hundreds of decisions each game.  Some of them I was prepared for but many of them I was not.  I had to be ready to change course if need be.  That is life.

Monday, May 9, 2016

The Encouraging Leader

Five years ago I was inspired by Mike Neighbors, an assistant coach at Xavier University, to begin a newsletter on leadership entitled THE ENCOURAGING LEADER.  Neighbors was doing a newsletter for basketball coaches and I really enjoyed it.  My entire life as a coach, I studied leadership and felt that I could add value to others with the insights that I had learned.  It started as a monthly newsletter but has since become a quarterly publication.  We have had some great leaders that have contributed over the years and I am so grateful for their generosity and willingness to write articles. For three years, I worked on the newsletter consistently but then in May of 2014 I took a new job.  I left a good college coaching job to become the athletic director at a traditional high school powerhouse in Indiana. It was a very grueling job and I put the newsletter on hold.  I kept coming up with reasons why I couldn't publish another issue.  The main one was "I am too busy".   However, what is in the middle of all excuses?  "U".  It wasn't the job that kept me from publishing more issues, it was me.  I was constantly making choices to push it further down my priority list. 

It takes time to put a newsletter together but every time that I put one together, it made me sharp and helped me learn more about leadership from many different perspectives.  Essentially by choosing to not publish the newsletter, I was taking away an opportunity for me to learn.  Just like Coach Neighbors newsletter, no doubt, keeps him sharp, at the same time helping others.  He is now the head coach at the University of Washington and they advanced to the NCAA Final Four this season.  He is a head coach in the Pac-12 and yet still religiously puts out his newsletter.  How inspiring is that?  That is one of the reasons that I decided to start being an encouraging leader again through the newsletter.  Click here to read the latest edition of The Encouraging Leader.  

Jamy Bechler is the executive director of U-Leadership and a John Maxwell Certified Leadership Speaker and Coach.  Contact him at to find out how you or your team can be more successful.